RE-EDUCATION OF THE TONGUE
By Karimah bint Dawoud, Muslim chaplain and wellbeing writer
These articles are reminders to myself foremost about the unIslamic characteristics I possesses and inspiration to what I must over come inshallah.
The human body is composed of flesh and blood and bones and organs. One of the smallest organs in the body can also be one of the most dangerous. That small dangerous organ is the tongue.
As Muslims we often speak of the significance of the tongue, there are millions are articles written about the sins of the tongue; lying, swearing , slandering and false accusations, slandering, back biting, mockery, ridiculing others and even calling it joking. Thoughtlessly saying the words of divorce may seem like a joke but weigh heavy on the scales of The Creator.
The Prophet (saw) described: “On the night of mirage I passed by some people who had metal hooks in their hands and were clawing at their faces and their necks with them. I asked Gabriel ‘Who were these people?’ He said ‘These are the people who eat the flesh of human beings and disgrace them’ (Abu Dawud).
Did you know in Islam there is even an adab, an etiquette, a manners of how you can tell jokes?
“O you who believe. Let not some men laugh at others, it may be the that they are better than you. Nor let some women laugh at others it may be that they are better than you. Nor abuse each other , nor be sarcastic to each other by using offensive nicknames…” (Ch49v11)
There is also much written about the positive use of the tongue; reciting the Quran, repetition of the names of Allah called zhikr, giving a kind word is regarded as a charity, encouraging, praising, having manners and saying thank you, these are all commended actions in Islam.
There is also writing about restraint of the tongue.
It is something I pray for every day that The Creator makes it easy for me to have patience, constancy and restraint, ameen.
Surat 90 al Balad -the City, verse 17
“And then being among those who believed and advised one another to patience and advised one another to compassion.
In Imam Nawawi’s Riyad-us-Saliheen, Chapter 39, The Rights of Neighbors, there is a hadith narrated Abu Shuraih Al Khuza’i, radiahu anhu said ” the Prophet Muhammad, salah al alaihi wa salem, said ” He who believes in Allah and the last day, let him be kind to his neighbor, and he who believes in Allah and the last day, let him show hospitality to his guest, and he who believes in Allah and the last day, let him speak good or remain silent.” ameen.